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Please, allow one Chinese mother to enlighten you on the soft ways of Western parents and, in turn, the vast superiority of the iron fisted traditional Chinese parenting. She has a few good points, like when she says "Western parents are concerned about their children's psyches. Chinese parents aren't. They assume strength, not fragility, and as a result they behave very differently.". I think that is a valid point in that children are more resilient, psychologically, then we "Westerners" give then credit for. Some very well adjusted people had really messed up childhoods. Though I don't know that I'll be disregarding my (theoretical) children's psyches (the children are theoretical, not their psyches). The list of things her children were never allowed to do will make you weep for them!
Perhaps the author is onto something when she writes, "What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work...". However, she then goes on to say the solution to under performance is, "always to excoriate, punish and shame the child." though, "When Chinese kids do excel, there is plenty of ego-inflating parental praise lavished in the privacy of the home.". After forcing myself to read the whole article I'm too disgusted to comment more...just ew. wsj.com
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